Wednesday, April 4, 2018

What To Do When You Have A Husband Hard Of Hearing

By Sarah King


As people age, everyone starts to see signs of their bodies slowing down. Sometimes things don't work as well as they used to. When you notice your husband being less attentive than usual and turning the television up louder and louder, you might question how well he hears. Even when he says he can hear just fine, you probably strongly suspect you are dealing with a husband hard of hearing.

Getting your spouse to make an appointment with an audiologist can seem next to impossible. It's important that you find a way though, even if it means making the appointment yourself, driving him there, and sitting in the waiting room with him. If your suspicions are confirmed, and there is a problem, the next step is deciding what to do about it.

Meeting with the audiologist after the exam will give you a lot of information. This person can explain how much loss there is and what kind. He may recommend you talk to an otologist about cochlear implants or suggest a hearing aid. Since this is not a life and death situation, you and your partner don't have to make a decision immediately.

In the meantime, you can help your partner by adjusting the way you speak to him. Make a conscious effort to look at him directly when you're speaking. If you need to get his attention, you might touch his back, shoulder or hand first. Background noises make it harder for him to hear, so if you want to have a conversation, turn the television down or off. You don't have to yell at him. It won't help. Neither will talking to him as if English is his second language.

When you are at the grocery store, mall, or in a restaurant, you can't avoid the background noise. Gesturing and pointing, which is usually considered rude, is perfectly acceptable under these circumstances. Chewing, covering your mouth, and smoking all interfere with your husband's ability to understand you. A lot of patience is extremely important. Your spouse is no longer pretending he can't hear you. Laughing, if it's mutual, can relieve a lot of tension.

You shouldn't feel like you're the only one who has to make all the accommodations. Your husband will have to adjust to the situation as well. It will be helpful if he lets you know whenever you are doing something that confuses him. He will have to confront public situations. Figuring out the best way to do it is his responsibility. At last, your husband will have to listen carefully when you talk.

You shouldn't wait for an emergency to happen to make a plan. You and your partner can go shopping for special devices that will flash or vibrate to alert him to an unusual situation. You can choose from auditory, visual, and tactile devices.

If you have a spouse who is going through a hearing loss, one of the best things you can do is accept whatever stage of acceptance he is in. This is a personal struggle, but one he doesn't have to face alone. That's what partnership in marriage is all about.




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